"Marriages are made in heaven"but they have to survive on earth against various odds.

Marriage the word which creates a stir in every individual’s life at least one point of time. What is marriage? The union of two souls for eternity. The union of two people to share their love and sorrow together or just a compromise between two individuals, because it is mandatory in our society to marry.

The confusion and uncertainty is from starting only. First when should I marry then whom should I marry and then is this the right person to marry and even after marriage was my decision right to marry such a person. But the biggest question is whether love or arrange marriage, at least for Indian middle class youth today.

arrange marriage is simpler and as per statistics more lasting. Then the headache is shared by parents so less demanding. But problem is clear as soon as you open even a matrimonial site. All girls and all boys are perfect, expert in each and everything. Then anyone can pretend to be the person away from the truth, just because their parents think it to be the right choice. The story is more complicated by horoscopes and dowry. And where is the element of love here? Definitely not because in arrange marriage love happens after marriage. Par nahi hua to??? May be the person is exactly opposite of what u thought or felt her to be. So it’s basically risk take it and then make a compromise whatever be the result.

Then comes our great love marriage, which is far more complicated and less successful as per statistics. But still it looks more rational and charming. But today’s wide range of choices and pragmatism had made even love confusing leave love marriage.To fall in love is still easy but to decide that yes this is my right love and I can marry her is even more enterprising. What’s the criteria whether our hobbies are similar, our interest our similar, our goal in life is same, we share same philosophy in life, we like each others company or it’s just the first look which says she is the one….
And even when u decide whether she aggress or not and then keep thinking whether I have taken a right decision. And in case it fails u cant even blame your parents or fate because it was you who is fully responsible for the decision.

Par bhaiya samay bhaut hi kharab hai love ho jata hai aur khatam bhi ho jata kyunki youth of today are much more practical .I will tell u two real incidents I have come across which reflects our thinking or confusion .

One of my seniors was having a serious affair with her classmate since class 9. Very soon they found their soul mates in each other and it was just time which has kept them apart. Every day was full of vows of never ending love and sacrifice for each other. It continued for 10 full years not to say they must have made their plans about their grand children. Then came the D day and my dear sir asked my dear madam that it’s the time now we should get married. But madam was much more practical so she asked for some more time and then one fine day gave the good news that she is getting married to some other guy very soon who is more rich, handsome then my dear sir. So is she right? Its better to be practical then to get carried away in that stupid love?? Whether she is happy or not, I obviously don’t now.

Second story is about one of my emotional friends who after getting a good dose decided not to fall in love. Par ishaq par jor nahi again he was in love. All his time was devoted for her, long calls for many hours net this that. He spent money time everything after all the girl has agreed to be his life partner. When one fine day again this madam also realized that its not working yar. After 2 years she suddenly feels,” no it’s not practical for us to get married”.

Then why the hell those false promises? Again people want to keep some backup what if this relationship doesn’t work then at least that guy is there. We have become so self centered that we don’t care what happens to that back up after our decision. After all its his problem. We consider all ifs and buts and suddenly have become so much practical that the element of love is lost altogether. And still there are more and more strains after marriage as people are unwilling to sacrifice and give love to their partner.

But still the result is unknown because to understand a human beings mind is the most difficult thing. In the novel Mahashewta , Anupma rightly says,”Marriage is a gamble. It does not matter how many people attend the function or how well the wedding is performed. The result cannot be predicted before hand. Finding the right match is a matter of chance.”
So let’s hope for the best and leave the rest.